feat(deps): use more performant pre-release otel sdk

[lizthegrey]

Which problem is this PR solving?

• span.SetAttributes() even with batching of the attributes in one call from fix(fielder): batch calls to SetAttributes #34, will add them all to the inner s.attributes object one at a time, causing excess growslice calls.

Short description of the changes

• Cherry-picks in sdk/trace: use slices.Grow() to avoid excessive runtime.growslice() open-telemetry/opentelemetry-go#4818 for improved performance.

[kentquirk]

OK, but will you please also write an issue to remove the replace directive once the other thing lands so we don't forget?