Add callback to useControl hook

[Pessimistress]

For #1949

The issue is that the way the useControl hook calls onCreate and onRemove is not symmetrical. Under <StrictMode>, useEffect is triggered twice, but useMemo is only triggered once. The current DrawControl example adds listeners in onCreate (useMemo), and removes listeners in onRemove (useEffect).

This PR adds a non-breaking new signature to useControl to provide symmetrical add/remove callbacks.