GH-39624: [R][CI] Add CMake to docker file and update envvars

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Rationale for this change

CMake is now a sysreq and we don't want to default to using nightly builds in CI

Are these changes tested?

Crossbos

• Closes: [R][CI] Update R docker jobs to work with new build system. #39624

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⚠️ GitHub issue #39624 has been automatically assigned in GitHub to PR creator.

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@github-actions crossbow submit -g r

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Revision: 2c97109

Submitted crossbow builds: ursacomputing/crossbow @ actions-65d2e156c3

Task	Status
r-binary-packages
test-fedora-r-clang-sanitizer
test-r-arrow-backwards-compatibility
test-r-depsource-bundled
test-r-depsource-system
test-r-dev-duckdb
test-r-devdocs
test-r-gcc-11
test-r-gcc-12
test-r-install-local
test-r-install-local-minsizerel
test-r-library-r-base-latest
test-r-linux-as-cran
test-r-linux-rchk
test-r-linux-valgrind
test-r-minimal-build
test-r-offline-maximal
test-r-offline-minimal
test-r-rhub-debian-gcc-devel-lto-latest
test-r-rhub-debian-gcc-release-custom-ccache
test-r-rhub-ubuntu-gcc-release-latest
test-r-rstudio-r-base-4.1-opensuse153
test-r-rstudio-r-base-4.2-centos7-devtoolset-8
test-r-rstudio-r-base-4.2-focal
test-r-ubuntu-22.04
test-r-versions
test-ubuntu-r-sanitizer

[assignUser]

The depsource build fails because of #39628 the other fails seem unrelated as they are not during the package build process this PR alters.

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